Meet the coach of
The Boundary Method
Hi, I'm Gypsy DeVillier-Ryan, my mission as a Life Coach in El Paso is to guide individuals toward "success through clear vision and positive change". I specialize in two deeply connected areas: addiction and codependency recovery. These areas are profoundly damaging to women, men, and their families.
Discovery is not Recovery
Understanding a flaw isn't the same as making the necessary changes. We're often held back by inherited behaviors and family perceptions. Behaviors that were learned to be adaptive in a past environment, may now be destructive in our current one.
Are you repeating harmful family patterns, or have you gone polar opposite, only to find yourself no better off?
"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will"
Romans 12:2
Areas of Focus
Skill Building
Identify key skills, set clear goals, create action plans, and provide crucial accountability, assist in overcoming obstacles and fostering a growth mindset, accelerate your personal and professional development
Emotional Regulation
Learn how to make the most of your time, set priorities, build productive routines, and balance work and personal life to achieve more with less stress.
Self Awareness
Identify triggers, understand emotional patterns, and develop coping strategies, provide tools for managing reactions, fostering resilience, and building emotional intelligence for a calmer, more controlled response to life's challenges
Accountability
Establish clear expectations, consistently check progress, and hold you responsible for commitments. Offer support and strategies to overcome obstacles, ensuring you stay on track to achieve your goals.
Action Planning
Help break down large goals into specific, manageable steps, prioritize tasks, establish timelines, identify necessary resources, and develop contingency plans, to ensure a clear and effective path forward.
Why "The Boundary Method"?
Healthy boundaries are the invisible lines that define where you end and others begin. Unhealthy boundaries lead to emotional exhaustion, resentment, and loss of self-identity. When you consistently prioritize others’ needs over your own, you risk burnout and chronic stress. Poor boundaries invite manipulation, disrespect, and codependent relationships, where your worth becomes tied to others’ approval. You may struggle to say no, tolerate toxic behavior, or feel guilty for asserting yourself. Over time, this erodes self-esteem and creates confusion about your values and limits. Professionally, it can result in overwork, lack of recognition, and blurred roles. Ultimately, unhealthy boundaries prevent authentic connection and personal growth, keeping you stuck in patterns that undermine your well-being.
They’re not walls—they’re gates. Gates that open for connection, but close to protect your time, energy, and emotional well-being. Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is one of the most powerful ways to improve your life, because it allows you to live with greater clarity, confidence, and control.Contrary to what some fear, setting limits doesn’t push people away—it invites healthier dynamics. When you communicate your needs clearly, others don’t have to guess or walk on eggshells. You teach people how to treat you, and you learn how to respect their boundaries in return. This mutual understanding fosters trust, safety, and authenticity. Relationships thrive when both individuals understand what is expected.Boundaries help limit distractions and interruptions. You also clarify expectations—what you’re responsible for and what you’re not. This reduces stress and increases efficiency. You stop trying to do everything and start doing what matters most.
Boundaries even shape your identity. When you set limits, you clarify your values, priorities, and goals. You stop living by default and start living by design. You become more self-aware, more confident, and more content. You stop outsourcing your worth to others’ approval and start owning your choices. In short, healthy boundaries are not just a skill—they’re a lifestyle.
About Me
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My story begins in El Paso, Texas, where I was raised as the only girl with three older brothers. My father was a recognized architect in his field, and my mother was a devoted homemaker. Very early on others noted that I was extremely independent and strong-willed, a trait that carried both blessings and challenges.
Like many, I entered marriage at a young age. What followed was an unhealthy dynamic that unfortunately stripped away much of my self-worth and identity. Even when that marriage ended, I continued to unknowingly carry those unhealthy cycles into subsequent relationships.
My path changed dramatically with Christ and recovery. This journey was truly transformative; it redefined how I viewed myself and others and fundamentally shifted how I responded to stressful situations. I stopped feeling like a victim and finally recognized that I had choices—a profound realization that gave me back control of my life.
For over twenty years, I never expected to leave my career as a Training Area Manager for a muti national conglomerate cosmetic company. It was a long-standing role, but unexpected corporate shifts led to an earlier retirement than anticipated. By this time, I had already been in recovery for nine years.
It was my husband, a psychotherapist, who consistently encouraged me to look into life coaching. As I reflected on my own journey, I realized this was truly my calling. My decades of professional experience in training, combined with my personal journey of mental and spiritual healing, perfectly positioned me to guide others toward their own breakthroughs. Now, helping others discover their power and improve their mental and spiritual health is the most rewarding work I can imagine.
Gypsy
What My Clients are Saying
(not real clients, at least I admit it)
She's the best
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Absolutely amazing
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unparalleled success.
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Change Starts with a Single Step!
There is no better time than the present to start working on your better life.
With a passion for helping individuals like you unlock their full potential and achieve their goals, I'm here to guide you on a transformative journey towards personal growth and success.
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